Thursday, March 27, 2014

A Supermom's Journey to Order



Order.  We hear that word and we immediately straighten up or begin to straighten up things that have fallen out of order in our minds.  It can be a consistently broken schedule or an untidy home. It can start with a forgotten appointment and end with a catastrophic meltdown! We all have various things we want to put in order.  We sometimes just get so burned out and overwhelmed that we don't know how.  Without order, things, life can become quite chaotic.  It can make it very difficult to feel productive, thus adding to our discouragements when it comes to creating a stable and loving environment in which our family thrives.  The true danger of falling prey to an "out of order" lifestyle is that our entire house feels the effects!  We are not able to give our best and eventually become burned out and (I've used this word before) unavailable.  It can become an unwanted crisis, an energy sucking monster that drains us of much needed time (that we obviously don't already have).  Even worse, it effects our spirits, darkening us from the inside out until we do something about it!

When I was a young girl, I remember my grandmother raring up this tune in Prayer Meetings.  In her old country church nestled deeply in the woods of Council, North Carolina, the sound was deep and rich as she belted it straight from her soul.  It rang and echoed throughout the sanctuary and in my young, trusting ears, "You'd better put our house in order!"  I often get bogged down and somehow out of sync.  In these moments, my journey becomes very difficult.  I can't seem to get the laundry completed or my youngest son adds to the mess before I can clean it up.  My much needed morning devotion and prayer sometimes gets run over with me sleeping in.  I'm pushing deadlines and waiting until the last minute to do everything.  Dishes somehow pile up faster than I can load the dishwasher, and an invoice needs to be sent out or an e-mail needs to be responded to.  Phone calls need to be made and soccer games attended to.  The hubby needs time and attention and dinner is not prepared. Did I mention time for my very own self??? Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!  Doesn't that make you scream, then laugh hysterically?  That's what I do!  When it all comes down I begin to laugh because I know that tensing up and stressing out will not make things better.

I regroup, I embrace silence, I cut off everything - tv, music, computers and even silence my cell phone (sometimes, really?).  I meditate on that dear scripture, "But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." - Matthew 6:33.   I believe that in that quiet time in which I put everything aside, and seek God, my attention is turned to perfection in Him, His son Jesus Christ and away from me.  It is then that He adds what I need, and He puts things in order, one task at a time. That beloved passage has brought me peace right dead in the middle of a storm!  I used to put my hands in it and try to fix it all.  I now stop everything and focus on the One who created me.  I come to Him with a heart of thanksgiving and don't leave His feet until He is done rebuilding me and strengthening me with His love.  My journey to order then begins with a fresh new insight from the One who created me and put this entire world together in the very first order ever!  He made the world in (drum roll).... seven days!  Surely He can teach me to put my home, my schedule and my family's schedule in order better than any calendar, planner or self-help book (we run to those often).  His timing is incredible and completes what takes us years to do in only a moment.  Seek Him 1st.  Put everything down when you feel overloaded and be still.  Wait.  Listen.  Wait some more.  When He speaks, then you move.  Your journey to order begins with the God of all creation who created all of us in His "divine order."

Sunday, February 2, 2014

The Schedule We Can't Create..Preparing for the Next Moment

Lol!  I know I did when I came up with the title of today's blog post!  Do you try and put together a calendar or a schedule for yourself and your family every week only to change it again the next day?  Do you put a calendar or schedule together and then completely do the opposite of what it says everyday?  Do you follow your schedule to a "T" and then become stressed when a spontaneous change is made and you have to temporarily break the rules?  If one of these is you, then this post is for you!  I'm actually all three.  It may seem like it's not possible, but it is.  We as moms can put so much pressure on ourselves in addition to the pressure naturally added by everyday life.  Sure, a schedule can and should be a guide for us to follow, and helps us create a balance so that we don't feel totally out of sync.  But it's totally okay to break it and make spontaneous last minute adjustments without beating ourselves up.  I was talking to another mom in my circle of moms this morning. We talked about how funny it is that we understand each other in instances like yesterday when she sent me a text message inviting us to join them for dinner at a nearby Mexican restaurant.  I didn't get the message because my phone was somewhere in my bedroom when she sent it and I was in the living room doing what I do best and managing the boys' playtime before dinner.  Mind you, I'd gone grocery shopping earlier and had planned a Spaghetti dinner.  By 6:30 P.M., I was so tired from helping my oldest son compete a craft we downloaded off the internet, we jumped in the truck and picked up burgers for dinner!  This morning, I found out my dear mommy friend rushed off to urgent care with her son and totally ditched the Mexican fiesta dinner idea!  You see?  It's easy to abandon your original plans with children.  You don't know how you will feel, how they will feel, and it's best to be prepared for, well anything.  If you don't create a schedule and simply posting the important memos like a doctor's appointment, or a school play are all that's necessary, good for you.  We all have our own normal, and there is no wrong or right way I feel to do what works best for you and your family.  The one common goal should be to have some type of direction so that you know what's happening tomorrow.  If you don't have the entire month or year etched in stone yet so be it.  The truth of the matter is...the most important thing we should try to preserve and get ready for with our children, is the next moment.
- Jantina Maria Rice

Thursday, January 9, 2014

It's a New Year and...

1) I will wash, fold, and put away all clothes all in the same day
2) I will plan every meal and have dinner on the table, ready to eat by 6pm each day
3) I will keep the entire house spotless from top to bottom at all times
4) I will work out at least 5 times a week and work off all the Thanksgiving and Christmas food I ate waaaaaaaay too much of before Spring...
5) I will make sure my children read two books each night before saying their prayers and going to bed (I won't just give them a bath and rush them to bed so I can go to bed)
6) I will rise each morning before the entire house and pray (I will not hit snooze until the last minute and get up rushing to get ready)
7) I will follow the schedule that I created for myself and the entire house (I will not change it each day to accomodate my own inability to follow it)
8) I will complete every project I started, large and small this year, I won't come into 2015 saying this same thing again...
...lol...am I the only one?  Maybe we shouldn't be so hard on ourselves, after all, it's best to just take it one day at a time...